Friday, July 8, 2011

How do you prepare?

I can't think of a single time in my life when I was at a loss for words, until now.

I called Aralyn's Neurosurgeon, Dr. Weprin, today. I wanted to make sure I understood everything he had told me Wednesday and I had two questions to ask. I knew the answers, but I prayed that he would give me something different. My first question was, "Is Aralyn terminal?". His answer was simple. "Yes." The second question I asked should never come out of a parent's mouth. It just shouldn't. "How long does she have?" His response was, "Whitney, I try my best to distance myself from my patients. Your daughter has pushed passed that and found a place in my heart. I can't give you an exact date and time, but you need to enjoy her while you can. I suggest you start planning. She is here now so live like she is, but prepare yourself for when she's not. Make the necessary arrangements. It's going to be difficult but it has to be done."

My heart hurts.

How do I prepare? There's no class for it. There is "Breastfeeding for New Moms", "Diaper Changing For Dummies" but no "How To Prepare For Your Child's Death 101".




This picture always makes me smile. :)

4 comments:

  1. Thank you so much for sharing your daughter with us! It is amazing how many hearts one little girl can touch! You and your family are always on my mind! You're strong will and positive attitude are so admirable. I caught myself thinking last night, as Landon complained of another ear ache, "Why do my kids always have ear problems?!" But then I thought of Miss A and you and my selfish attitude changed. Even is Aralyn goes home early, she is going home to God, Jesus and Shannon! I can picture Shannon's big smile and open arms waiting for her! Aralynis one lucky angel! Much love to you and your family!!

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  2. I am so sorry you are going through this. I cant even imagine a doctor telling me that about Noah. I agree with the doctor live like she is here now. Its so difficult for me to look at her knowing she has t8 and then remember what you just stated above. She looks so typical. She looks wonderful and perfect. I cant imagine how you are wrapping your head around it. I am sorry. I will continue to pray for her.

    BE blessed

    Ashlee

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  3. I just came across your blog off of fb when I say your beautiful daughter's picture on a photographer's site. I sat here and weaped as I read your words of pain, courage, honesty, love & understanding. I can not imagine what you are going through but I want you to know that your positive attitude & honesty have touched my life. I will be praying for you, your most precious daugher, your son & your husband. God has given you your daughter for His perfect plan & will do good things through her life. What a witness for our Heavenly Father you are. I pray for peace for your entire family & that each day you have with your daughter is special. I will be giving my daughter an extra kiss tonight because of you!! Love to you!

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  4. Someone directed me to your blog, since we were told our son was not going to live long after birth, we are of course praying for a miracle. I love your blog. You are one amazing strong Momma! And she is ADORABLE!!

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